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The mental state plays a crucial role in the expression of the genes. There are many scientific evidences in the recent times of how the mental disposition changes the expression of the genes.

Certain health disorders such as heart disorder, diabetes, arthritis, mental illness etc. are attributed as hereditary genetic problems. Most of us and including the science believe that the hereditary genetic problems pass on from generation to generation. Hence, if our parents have such disorders, we believe that we stand a good chance to get the disorders as we carry the defective genes from the parent.

Mental State: This may not be case as per the newly evolved field called “epigenetics”.  As per epigenetics, the expression of genes depends not only by the genes but the environment in which they thrive. One such environment for us is our mental state and the faith that we hold in our consciousness.

If we have a faith and believe that we get arthritis just because our parents and grandparents have had the disorder then just because of such a strong faith and thoughts around that faith are good enough to create an environment for the gene to express and hence we get the disorder in our body sooner or later.  Alternatively, if you have a faith and belief that the expression of the genes are pretty much in our conscious control then we may not get the disorder even though you have the defective genes passed hereditarily to you.

Brain Characteristic: Our survival brain protects and keeps us in a safe environment. Because of such a characteristic of the brain, it is natural that we worry always of the potential dangers around us. When it comes to health disorder, there is no exception and we tend to worry too much and allow unnecessary thoughts into our minds and we believe the ideas of others and prevailing science. If you believe the ideas and develop a faith that certain health disorders are hereditary and hence, you will get in near future then it is guaranteed that you get the disorder pretty much simply because you have developed a faith in such ideas.

Personal experience: I am here to share my own personal experience related to the expression of genes. I have come from a family with diabetes genes inherited. Also, I have developed a strong fundamental idea over a period of years that my mental state is an important deciding factor in the expression of my diabetes genes. To make this idea more practical, I have created many conditions and ambiences to test & prove and convert the idea into a belief and faith that generates my newly developed mental state. For my faith and belief to become stronger, I tested myself with all the practices that a typical diabetic person should avoid.

My Steps: Most of us get health disorders mainly because we are poor listeners of signals from our body. Like many others, I was not a good listener of my body signals. First, I developed an art of listening to the signals from the body by means of yogic techniques. Secondly, I tried all the possible practices that a diabetic should avoid like eating sweets, running marathon etc. All, I did was smartly listening to my body as I subjected myself to all the prohibited test conditions. Finally, I started believing my body and the signals than the ideas and diversified sciences around the disorder. Now, I am proud to say that I am not only diabetic but a person who is fond of eating sweets.

So, strong belief and faith are required to have such a strong mental disposition to create an environment for the genes NOT to express. For this, one needs to test himself practically all the adverse conditions to develop such a faith.

Want your Mind to serve you diligently?

For most of us, the mind works as a master. Mind generates thoughts that direct our life. Eventually, we become the prisoners of our own minds. Falsely we identify our “SELF “to our own Mind. In reality, we are bigger than the mind. Our Mind and Body are just the instruments that are supposed to serve us for our growth. In most of our cases, we could not able to control the Mind and the Body and hence the Mind and Body regulate us.

Purpose of Mind: Mind is an instrument and its sole purpose is to protect us. The mind identifies the threat and danger and keeps you away from the hazard. This enables you to lead a comfortable life and stay in a comfortable zone which is nothing but a familiar least resistance zone of the mind.

Characteristics of the Mind: There are two important characteristics of the mind which I would like to highlight here and see how to exploit those characteristics in order for the mind to serve us for our growth.

1.       Mind works as an Auto Servo Mechanism. The mind simply revolves around a centre point. This centre point is nothing but what you are interested in. Your interest has an emotional base. The emotions could be positive such as positive growth, happiness & pleasure or negative such as fear, worries & anxieties.

2.       Mind what it focus on that grows. If you focus on, say for example, to stay healthy then the world and information related to health grow and the whole new dimension of the health related world blow up in front of you. Such is the power of the focus of the mind.

For the mind to serve us, all we need to is to exploit the above two characteristics of the mind.

1.       When you set a goal that aids in your development, the first and foremost requirement for setting the goal is to add the positive emotional base to that goal. By doing so, you have tagged your interest with a positive emotional base and it becomes your centre point of your auto servo mechanism of the mind. Now, the mind works preciously like an auto servo goal achieving machine.

2.       Do not take bigger action that leads to a failure. Instead, take fewer small actions that are easily achievable in moving towards your goal. Now, since the actions are achievable, you get the rewards in the form of small results. The rewards activate the motivational centre of the brain. This motivational part of the brain releases dopamine, happy hormone which motivates you to take further actions. Now further actions yield further rewards and this over a period of time becomes cyclic routine. So, your focus on the goal increases and it opens up a new world in front of you which has not been previously discovered.

So, all you need to do is to set a simple action of formulating a positive emotional base while setting up the goal and splitting up a goal into easily achievable micro goals. The mind acts like a diligent server then uses the above two characteristics to do the rest of the work in taking you towards your goal.

Weight Managment Demystified - Part2

For this New Year, I wanted to give back something valuable for my existing as well as old clients as a way of showing my gratification to them. I am quite happy with the overwhelming responses from my clients on the offer that I presented to them as my New Year gift.  Most of them have shown genuine interest in getting themselves FIT from this New Year. I feel that their intentions are wonderful and really great way to start their New Year. Intention when combined with the right strategies, the desired result of having an ideal fitness level can be easily achieved.

I am here to share some of my strategies that generated my radical transformation. This blog is in continuation of my earlier blog on Weight Management. The first and the foremost thing that one should understand is that we all have POWER and capacity to do what we really aspire. Yes, you are a superior person and you have to have a strong believe in your ability. Secondly, you can change only when you have made your own decision to change. You are empowering yourself for a change to happen to you.

There are many of you who have attempted and failed in achieving the ideal fitness level. It is not an issue at all NOW. All you need to do is to take ONE strong but simple ACTION now to get the desired fitness level once and for all. That one simple step is to create a right conducive ambience where your aspiration can thrive.

Design of Ambience:

We are highly influenced by the people, events and experiences that go around us. It is important to design a right ambience that generates a positive influence on you. When it comes to the topic on fitness, many people around us set as bad examples in failing to achieve the desired state. Whereas, there are few who set as good examples in showing us how to achieve the ideal fitness level. Now, identify the right person around you and find out the success PATTERN of that person who has succeeded. This is a good start point. When your concentration is focused on the success pattern then you are already set yourself in the winning strike.

So, design of the right ambience consists of two steps. Firstly, study others and identify the success pattern of the most successful people and mimic the pattern. You don’t need to undergo trial and error in trying out all the different combinations of the workouts/practices. Secondly, study yourself that why you need this change. What made you to decide to go for this change? What are all the driving forces for you to aspire for your ideal fitness level? Remember that we should have strong reasons for our desire to become REALITY. The emotional aspect of your desire is a strong motivational booster.

So, let us work on the above two factors NOW. I will give further strategies in my next blog.

“Sure Win “New Year Resolution -Part2

This blog is in continuation of my earlier blog on “sure win “New Year resolution .If you are contemplating on a “sure win” health & fitness goals, here are few more points that you should be aware of to achieve the goals.

Important bridge: Many of us SET the goals but only few of us ACHIEVE the goals. A goal stays as a dream for ever when it is set but when it is not achieved. The distance between setting goal and achieving goal is miles apart. Your ACTIONS based on the set goal act as a bridge between setting a goal and achieving a goal. When the actions are not taken, the set goal started as a dream, continues as a dream and ends as a dream. The desired results of the goal come in reality only when the appropriate actions are taken in time.

Important Mechanisms: Your action or inaction is based on your thoughts from your mind. Mind has two important characteristics that need to be used for achieving the goals.

1.       Mind operates like an auto servo goal machine. Mind revolves around your ideas and your interests. If don’t have a real vested interest on the set goals then most likely the mind will be focussed on something else and hence your actions that follows will have a different focal point. So, it important for you to have a GENUINE interest on the set goals. The best way to develop interest is to have a kind of vision board in your visibility. Vision board portrays the pictures in advance the desired end results of your goals.

2.       Mind what it focuses on that gets expanded. This is the power of focus. Say for example, if you focus on losing the weight and as the mind starts to think in that direction, the world related to losing weight expands. This could be in the form of meeting the relevant people who help in solving your problem, seeing the fitness equipment’s, spotting fitness related articles in the newspaper etc. So, focus on the goal for it to open up a new world to you.

Secret formula: Here is the secret formula for you to stay on track in achieving the goal. I have learned and experienced this technique personally myself. The biggest drive for us to take ACTION is the motivation. Motivation comes by the REWARD of your action. It is important to activate the reward center of your brain to stay on track in achieving the goals. The best strategy is to split a goal into micro goals that are CERTAINLY achievable based on your current available resources. The small rewards of these micro goals compound together in hardwiring your brain to achieve the bigger goal. So, make it a point to keep a journal in writing at least five small progresses that happened in a day by your actions for the micro goals to generate a compounding effect in achieving a bigger goal.

So develop the habit of not only setting the goals but also achieving the goals.

“Sure win” New Year Resolution

Each New Year passes by and so our New Year resolution as well. Do you wonder why your resolution at the beginning of the year gradually loses its momentum with the passing months? Do you need some ‘’sure win’’ strategies to make things happen in your favour for your growth? I suggest some of my strategies which I follow for years which work like a charm. Feel free to follow these simple procedures if you plan to have certain goal for your Health & Wellbeing or any other goals in other areas of the life.

Be kind to yourself: Set a goal which is realistic based on your available resources. After all, you have only 365 days in a year. If you plan to lose weight then it is ideal to target for 10% drop in weight in comparison to an unrealistic 40% drop. Each one of us has infinity power and anything is possible if we really progress our goals mindfully. Your goal should neither be easy nor difficult.

Out of Comfort Zone: Whenever you set a goal, be prepared to come out of the comfort zone. Brain works in the least resistant path. Any new change drives you out of your comfort zone and it is not an easy for the brain to handle the change at the earlier stage. Mind throws “stories and excuses” for you to buy those so that you continue to stay in the comfort zone. You need to make a conscious decision to overcome the stories given by the mind. Remember that your growth is in direct proportion to the extend you move away from your comfort zone. If you go by your old habits, doing the same things in life and meeting the same kind of people but expect a different result then it is an utter ignorance from your part. So, break this pattern to achieve your goal.

Create the right ambience:  We, human being are influenced by the external circumstances. We become the victim of circumstances when we don’t know how to manage the circumstances. So, it is important to design a suitable ambience for your resolution to nurture. If your ambience is setup to have a negative influence then you encounter a setback. For example, you may want to lose weight but if you have an ambience without the right kind of people, workouts plan and the equipment’s then you won’t progress very well on your goal. The ambience has to be carefully designed to have a positive influence on your goal.

Role Model: Pick the right role model who already exceled in the field where your goal is targeted. This person has already seen the ups and downs, used all the trials and errors to achieve the goal. Simply, model his pattern and you will become successful. The best strategy is to paste his picture in some easily noticeable areas such as your desktop screen, mirror and your workplace so that he becomes a source of energy for you to achieve your goal.

Coach/Mentor:  Be prepared to travel in the new path the moment you set your new resolution /goal. The fact is that you have not travelled often in this path. The surprise elements and disappointment pull you back to the point where you started. You need education, motivation and clarity to move towards your goal. So, wisely get a right mentor/coach to take you safely in the path less travelled by you.

Try the above strategies and let me know how you have progressed in achieving the desired result that you deserve.

Self Management Exercises

One can manage others only when he has the capacity first to manage himself. Self management is an art & a learnable skill. Self management is all about managing our body, mind and emotion. Thoughts come from the mind. Thoughts lead to action/inaction that gives rise to emotions. The emotions are expressed as feelings in the body.

Art of listening: You may want to touch your feet with your palms in a forward bend posture. This is your intention. But, the body may not be listening to your intention and you may able to touch only the shins or knees. Why the body is not listening? The simple reason is that we are not listening to the body. So, in order for the body to listen to us, we need to listen to the body first.

Exercise 1 : Mindfulness dynamic exercise such as yoga helps in developing the art of listening to the body. This is one such reason that why you see the practitioners of yoga do some fancy postures which a common men wonder about.  The simple guideline is to use the movement of your breathing as a tool to move your body. This way, one can feel the body sensations clearly with the body movement.

Mind & Emotions: Similarly, the mind when it is not managed gives rise to random thoughts. We are overwhelmed with the stream of thoughts and we eventually become the prisoner of our own mind. When emotions are not effectively managed, conflict arises which disturb the relationships with others.

Exercise 2: So, if we need to manage our mind & emotion, it is important to divert our awareness to the mind first. One can use some concentration exercise such as paying attention to the flow of breathing. Simply, become aware of the rise and fall of breath. The mind likes rhythm and the rise& fall of breath is a rhythm which silences the mind. With the silent mind, the emotions can be easily monitored as bodily sensations.

Exercises 1 & 2 help us in connecting to our body, mind & emotion.  We not only self manage but we get the ability to connect with others easily. We need this level of connectivity to really connect ourselves to our spirits. Without the connection to our spirit, it is difficult to identify the real purpose and meaning of life.

Self manage yourself by managing your body, mind & emotion so that you can connect to your spirit and the universe.

A Modest Mind shift to ease the enormous STRESS

We are solely accountable and responsible for the actions that we do in our life on a daily basis. There is no argument to this. When we cross the set limit and become over responsible and over accountable then the problem starts. You know what I am talking about? You live and take some heavy actions as if the entire world is operating just because of you. You operate as if nothing moves forward in this world without your presence.

Examples: One can see the above pattern especially when it comes to jobs, kids’ education, our own health and also the welfare of the children. When it comes to work, some of us take up the job and proceed as if he only can do the job in perfection as he believes in his own ability. He is worried to delegate the work to others because of the fear of the end result when it is executed by someone else. Similarly, parents overprotect the children when it comes to their welfare and literally lead the kid life in a direction that the parent’s desire and in that process they shadow the individuality and the freedom of the kid. When it comes to the health of the individual, again we use all the possible means to reach the ideal perfect health state but in the end we lead a miserable unhealthy state because we miss the simple art of listening to the body.

Fact 1: All these over accountability and over responsibility are simple acts of delusion.  The thought that leads you to cross the boundary is just there ONLY in your mind. It is valid only for you but NOT for others. You have created a world that exists just in your mind and it doesn’t exist anywhere else.

Fact 2: The plain fact in reality is that all things in life will be carried on and executed beautifully even without your presence. Even without you, the kid’s welfare will be taken care by default. In your work, even if you go on a month holiday and then after a month, you will be surprised to know that the work was done seamlessly even without your presence.

Fact 3: The greater fact is that the world was functional before you came here. It is functional as you live now. World will be FINE after you leave this place also. The simple thing, all that we need to do during your stay here in this short interval is to ask a  simple question,” what is the value that I can add up that transforms the life’s of others?”

Overstepping: How does one know that he has crossed his boundary? All that one needs to know is to see whether his action/inaction is causing the unnecessary worries, fears, doubts and anxieties. If you see any of the above symptoms then simply you know that you are crossing your limit. Don’t become over accountable and over responsible.  In fact, this is the main cause of the most of lifestyle diseases such as back pain, diabetes, migraine, etc.

One can drop tonnes of weight from his shoulder if one comes in terms with the above mentioned facts and that alone provides the right mind shift in him to blow out that unnecessary stress. Let us not the play the role of Hercules who carries the entire weight on his shoulder.

No Tension Formula:

Intention + Action = No Tension

Have a clear INTENTION in life and take the right ACTION keeping in my mind the positive outcome without any doubt then there is no tension in life.