Young voice of Wisdom:

We live in a world where we are influenced by others as well we influence others. There is another deeper, closer and smaller world for each one of us which we call it as “Family”. This world is much different than the external world. The family relationships are much stronger and the influence on one another in the family is also intense. Here, we have special bonding, love and affection between family members.

Parent Choices and the freedom of the Children: As parent, we want to give the best for our children. Best education, dresses, morals and values. In the process of offering the best, we compromise the thing which we thought is right for our children. What we think is right at this moment was wrong sometimes in our past and in the same way, what we think is wrong now was absolutely right earlier. Such is the dynamism of our choice. Our discrimination of right or wrong comes from our own experience. When we provide the right choice for the children, it is not the true choice that we are offering to them but it is that our experience that is forced on to them. In a way, we are forcing our experience onto the children which prohibits them from having their own very experience in its genuine state of freshness. The children freedom is lost when we make the decision what is best for them.

So, it is important to give the freedom and it should be kept in mind when we take certain choices in the life of the children.

Moral and value for the children: As a parent, do we need to teach the moral and value for the children? Say for example, we want to develop the value of getting up from the bed early morning to our children. One way of doing this to teach them all the benefits of early morning rising. Another method is simply for us to lead in the front the life that we want to teach. The first method will not be effective as the children learn and pick up the habits from the parent subconsciously. Such is the power of the subconscious programming. What you try to teach will not be followed by the children but they follow the one that you really do in your own life.

So, the best way to pass on the values and morals to the children is to simply lead the life that we want our children to have. Take out from your equation the question of teaching/preaching to the children.

Personally, I developed the habit of practicing yoga early morning daily and I thoroughly enjoyed the benefit of yoga. In that process, I did some reverse engineering of my old habits. One such habit is the way how I value the food that I eat. My daughters do not know ABC of yoga. I never talked to them in our personal time about Yoga. But, I noticed my daughter picked up subconsciously the value system of the food and it helped in her physical transformation from a chubby girl to a slim and sleek girl. Such is the effect of us leading in the front instead of preaching/teaching.

Me, Mine and Others: Some of us pay too much attention in the welfare of their children. They pour their entire energy for the family. They don’t even consider their own growth. This is a situation of overkill. To strike a balance, one needs to spend energy equally for his own growth, for his family development and for the benefit of the society. At the later stage of our life, it is our growth and our skills that will be of help to us as well as others.

So, strike a balance the way how you distribute your energy in all the three primary areas: Your personal growth, family and the society.

Once when we offer the true freedom to the children, pass on the values simply by leading the life in the front and equally spending your energy in all the primary areas, it is guaranteed that you listen your wisdom through the young voice of your children.