Power within – 12 Strategies -

The previous 12 posts describe the 12 strategies!!

What is the key for the happiness in life? Now, you would have in your possession of all those things that you desired few years before. Now, you would have bought your dream house, car, fancy gadgets, farmhouse etc. but somewhere deep inside you, you might be experiencing emptiness, a craving to get more in the pursuit of your happiness.

My personal transformation has taught me some valuable lessons that drive my direction for a meaningful & purposeful life. Here is the formula that gives a solution to your present problem. First, understand your physical, mental & emotional energies & align those energies in identifying your true resource capabilities. Once that is done, you will see a proportionate growth in all the dimensions of the life i.e. your Health, Wealth, Relationships & spiritual development. This is what you might be lacking right now. For example, you may be good in generating wealth but not in your Health or other two dimensions & so on.

Here is my attempt in compiling twelve mental, emotional & physical strategies that give the desired alignment that you sought in understanding your Power within.

Achieve Active life beyond 50s,60s &above

Physical Strategies

1 Art of listening to the body

2  Physical Exercises: Basis

3  Consistency: Success

Mental Strategies

4   Mind Pendulum

5  Mind Centre Point

6  Mind Persistence

7  Mind: Wandering

8  Thoughts:Effects

9  Mind:Comfort Zone

Emotional Strategies

10  React vs Response

11  External Reality

12 Emotions:Memory

WISH A HEALTHY & PROSPEROUS YEAR 2018

Going beyond our limits

Perception: Our experiences to an event vary from person to person because of the difference in the perceptions of the individuals. Event may be the same but experience to the event is different because of our own perception. Perception is a mental interpretation to the experiences that we gather through our senses.

Database: why individual perception is different & unique? The simple answer is that the life experiences of each individual are different. Siblings with the same “bring up” do not have the same life experiences. So, the perception and the so called the mental interpretation come from the already stored database which is nothing but the life experience of the individuals from birth until now.

If one realise the value of the above theory then two wonders will happen to him that may potentially change the way he leads his life.

Valuing others: No two individuals are alike because the way how they perceive is different. This realisation helps in understanding others in a better way & build good relationships. When I know that I perceive an event very different than my wife, I naturally value the way how she perceives the same event in a different way. This helps in husband wife relationship. This works well with everyone around you in building  better relationships as long as you have a conscious awareness of this truth.

New Learning: The good news that the database upon which our perception operates on is not a fixed entity. It can be upgraded. The conscious awareness of this truth helps in undoing those already stored database with new ones in the form of new learning. As grownup adults, we have now the conscious choice of upgrading the database that has moral values. When the database is filled up with good value systems that follow the universal law, the distortion to your perception will be minimized.

This now provides the reason for the existence of the good books of Bhagavat Gita, Bible etc.

Summary:

"WE FUNCTION ONLY WITHIN THE LIMITS OF THE DATABASE CONSTRUCTED BY OUR COLLECTIVE LIFE EXPERIENCES UNTIL THIS MOMENT."

We can’t function beyond what is being stored as experiences in our database. The database is nothing but a collection of life experiences from birth until this moment. Here is my simple strategy: To expand the life, update the database with good values.

Physiological Actions:

Imagine that your anger is really at its peak. There is a natural reaction of the body corresponding to this psychological change. In this changed state, your blood pressure increases, your face becomes red, your body becomes stiff and your heart beats faster. All these reactions happen so involuntarily and automatically without even your conscious control. In the same way, when you are in a state of extreme happiness, you will have great smile in your face, the cheeks blush, your eyes brightens & the whole body becomes radiant. This is also a natural reaction to your internal psychic state and you may not even aware of these changes as all of these happen involuntarily and so automatically.

Reverse effect: If one voluntarily and consciously changes his physiological state then his internal psychological state changes because of the change in the physiology. This is a powerful way to stay happy & confident in life. But, this requires a bit of self-practice & training.

For example, a simple smile on your face induces a state of joy. Keeping the chest up & with little shoulder drooped down increases the level of confidence. Keeping our eyes stable and looking into the eyes of the person standing opposite to you generates a powerful bonding. Having a stable posture with the spine straight adds stability to our mental state. Long deep breathing induces calmness in our thought process.

Changing the physiological state to change the internal psychological state is a voluntary action. Whereas, the internal psychological state that changes the physiology of the body is an involuntary reaction. So, train the body to drill your internal psychic state voluntarily.

Summary: A Change in the external physiological state reciprocates a corresponding change in the internal psychic state. An upright "chest up" posture induces an instantaneous confidence in you. Long deep breathing induces calmness.

Here is the simple strategy:

Alter your physiological body posture to get the required instant confidence in a weird situation such as meeting your boss/stranger.

"EXTERNAL PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE RECIPROCATES THE INTERNAL PSYCHIC STATE"

React vs. Response : Outdate to Update

Design: If you open up the books of neuroscience, you’ll come to know at a very abstract level that we have three layers in the brain namely the brain stem, limbic & prefrontal cortex. In simple terms, these are called as the lower, mid & upper brains. Each section of the brain has a unique function. The lower brain is called the survival brain, mid brain is called as the emotional brain & the upper brain is called as the thinking brain.

Evolution: Brain has evolved in few billion years. It starts with the survival first then with the emotions followed by the thinking ability. Considering the rate of growth of the brain, the brain has evolved very rapidly in the recent few million years. The size of the brain has increased to three fold during this period. The brain was five hundred grams few million years before and now it weighs one thousand five hundred grams. Most of this rapid development has happened in the upper section of the brain i.e. the thinking brain.

Living condition: All these neurological systems in our brain are pretty much intact even in today’s living condition. We survive, we become emotional & we think and accordingly the respective brain section gets activated. Unlike other animals, Human is a weak animal by nature. We can’t fly; we can’t run fast & so on. We always live in the dangerous situations & hence, our brain is evolved to look for the potential threads.

But in today’s scenario, we live in a very safe world in comparison to the living condition few million years before. So, the survival & emotional centres are slightly out dated mechanisms. The smartness rests in the way of how we utilise the recent development of the brain i.e. the thinking section of the brain.

React: If I react to a situation or to an experience then it is a spontaneous action from my brain which uses the lower & mid sections of the brain. So, we react emotionally out of fear, worry & anxiety for the given situation & hence, we engage the survival & emotional centres of the brain. This is an out dated mechanism in today’s safe world.

Response: Response is a simply a mechanism of giving a slight PAUSE before reacting during an experience. This pause brings the thinking brain into the equation. Once thinking brain comes into the play, it changes the way how you assign a meaning to an event and hence changes the very nature of our experience itself. This is the new way of leading the life using the newly developed part of the brain i.e the thinking brain.

This habit if it developed then it changes the way one experiences the life. So, learn to “Pause” gives an opportunity to “Respond” instead of “React” during adversity.

Keep life Simple & Easy!!

A simple New Year Resolution but with maximum effect

Influence: Do you know who influences your life the most? If your answer is those great leaders who inspired you the most then you are only partially correct. Greater inspiration does not correlate always to your bigger influence. Of course, YES!!  It has its own influence but there is something much more at a subtler influence happening in the background of your life. It is so subtle that you don’t even realise that it is changing the way you lead the life. So, what is this “something”?

This is nothing but the group of people to whom you spend most of your time in life. They have the bigger influence on you and they change the course of your life. The influence happens in smaller doses but on daily basis. Any success or failure or powerful transformation that you witness in life is not a sudden shift. It is a gradual process where things are added up in small doses on regular basis to generate such a dramatic transformation in you. Many of the readers have seen personally my own transformation & success story. But, this transformation is no exception but built on the average of sum of those small doses.

So, your friend’s network is also such a powerful medium which add up small doses on a daily basis to push you up to the success pattern or pull you down to the failure zone.

Simple check: If you don’t believe in the above point then it is time for you to test yourself to see this in your own life. Just check present status of your life, right now. Ask some simple questions: What is that I do mostly on day today basis? What are those repeated activities that I perform on daily basis? Where I spent most of my time in a day? Whatever I do in my life, do they really mean lot to me? Am I happy/not happy? Am I successful/not successful in life? Am I enjoying the life? Am I productive or simply wasting the time of my life?

Just record your answers for the above questions. Now, compare those with your friend network and check the similarity in the answers. You will be amazed to see at least 70 to 80% match in the answers.

Do you remember the quote,” You are simply an average of your close friends”. This is rightfully true!!

Resolution: Practically, my simple definition of spiritual growth is nothing but to see myself growing in every dimensions of my life such as the way how I develop my skill, the way how I built up my wealth & health, the way how I built up my relationships with people etc. If I do self-comparison of my present state of my life to that of my life, say three months before & if I see considerable progress in a positive way then I am moving in the spiritual path. Because I see clearly that I evolve on day today basis & spiritual development is nothing but understanding the power of our inbuilt evolutionary energy.

So, make a New Year resolution to put yourself in a positive evolutionary path for this year. The simplest technique is to scrutinise the people around you. It is important to handpick at least five of the highly evolved people & make a conscious choice to dwell with them most of your time. If you don’t have these sets of evolved people in your network then look out for them elsewhere. In the worst case scenario, you can have them in the virtual world like social media, YouTube etc. or read their books, their blogs etc. Over a period of time magically those people or similar category of people will appear in your life. This is guaranteed!! It is my promise to you based on my personal experience.

I did have this similar resolution two years before & if you see the people in my life now, they are completely a different set of new people then what I used to have earlier. They help me to evolve & giving a clear meaning & purpose to my life.