What do you want?

Persistence: Two simple questions!!  What do you want? What you don’t want in life? Whatever the answers to both these questions, the answers persist in your mind. The persistence is much stronger and deeper for the negative question. Considering an example of building a new relationship. Now, you may say to yourself that you want to build a relationship with someone or you don’t want to build a relationship with that person. Both these ideas persist in your mind.

Direction: When the answer is positive such as “I want to build a relationship” then you have set a direction. Mind works in tune with direction. It gives all the possibilities for you to take actions and whatever actions that you take will lead you in this set direction. So, there is a progress. But, when the answer is negative such as “I don’t want to build a relationship”, mind still gives all the possibilities for you to take the actions. But, you will be thrown with number of other alternatives too. Should you need to build relationship with yet another person? Should you be satisfied with the existing relationship? Should you need to strengthen the current relationship? Or simply think of something about your profession. So, the direction is lost here & hence, there is no progress.

Strength: What you resist persists. I don’t want to see my boss very often. A very nature of a thought such as this creates a situation where you are forced to meet your boss very often. Instead, focus on “what you want “in life. You may want to meet the client who will help in assigning an order or you may want to meet your colleague who will help in your project. When, such thoughts become stronger then the situations created will work in your favour.

Deeper Mind: Negative connotation has a different meaning at the deeper level of the mind.  A thought such as “I don’t want to meet my boss” will be translated as “I want to meet my boss” at the subconscious level of the mind. So, focus on “What you want” in life instead of focussing on “what you don’t want” in life. By doing so, your direction is set.

Mind: Centre Point

Centre Point: Consider the following two scenarios. When I am on an important task, naturally my mind revolves around that particular task. My thoughts at that moment are all related to the task in my hand. In a different scenario, when two persons are in a conversation and if one does not pay attention to the conversation, it is clear that this person mind is occupied with something which has higher importance than the conversation. In the above two examples, you may notice that the mind works on the priority or what is considered significant. Thought patterns are related to the event/action which is considered important.

Emotional association: Mind revolves around the centre point which is nothing but our set priority or interest. This priority has an emotional component associated with it. The highest priority has a motivation to do the action because there is a strong bonding of emotion attached to it. This emotion could be positive type of emotions such as joy, love, happiness etc or negative type of emotions such as fear, worry, doubt etc.

Thoughts: We prepare the action because, we worry/fear about something or we have some motivation such as reward that generates happiness. So, mind is simple equipment that aids in generating the thoughts related to the important task in hand. Imagine a scenario in a situation where there is no demand for an action with higher importance. This is the time; mind is free to roam around with no centre point. Mind wanders when there is no pressing need.

Direction of Mind: So, it is good to have a centre point so that mind has a direction to work on. Setting a higher goal in life & making it important that permits the mind to work in a direction. A positive emotion is tagged to this goal that styles the mind to work in our favour.

In other words, if you see your life is not going the way that you always wanted then it is important to analyse those centre points. Eliminate those centre points based on worries & fears. Set the centre points with the goals based on the positive emotions for the greater goodness!! 

Mind : Pendulum

Mind is a powerful device gifted to the humankind by the evolutionary process. This device can be deployed for our own benefits provided we know preciously the method of handling of this device. The life experience becomes frantic & hectic when one fails to manage this device.

Pendulum: Mind movement is like a pendulum. It swings between the two opposite sides from the neutral position. The two sides are the “past” and the “future” and the neutral position is the “present”. So, the entire time mind moves towards the past and future while crossing the neutral state momentarily. This is especially true when we don’t have an important task at hand. Watch the movement of your mind in the situations like driving a car, brushing your teeth!!  Naturally, mind dwells in the past or fantasises the future.

Default Network: In neuroscience, scientists call this pendulum action as the default network of the brain. Nearly 49% of the time, the brain stays in the default network. We know that each of our thought generates an electric impulse. Considering this fact , we spend half the time wasting our energy by random thoughts. We tend to worry when mind thinks of the past experiences.. We fancy our future which is yet to happen. But, there is a way to make this mind lot more productive that generates better life experience.

Leading a life:  We have choices!!  Either, we can think of our future life and compromise our present life or simply, lead the present life to the fullest. Most of us fall in the first category compromising this moment for the better future. But, the simple secret is that if we live and experience the present moment to its fullest, the future will be fine. This secret that I learned has directed my life for greater goodness.

Present moment: What is the definition of living in the present moment? When I get involved in an activity or simply, when I experience a moment, the experience of space and time become void. This means that I would have spent thirty minutes experiencing an event but in my experience, it was like a minute. Remember those moments where you read your interesting book or watch movies for hours together but the hours fly in seconds. These are those “present moment” where you live in that moment. Future will be fine & very well secured for those who experience the present moment very often in life. It is simply because; how I live today that governs my future.

External reality: An internal reflection

Our life experience is limited to the extent of how well our internal world is programmed. If one starts to experience this truth, it is not only inspirational but very liberating too. Personally, this is my experience of life. Such an experiential knowledge changes the way how one perceives the life. There was a shift that happened within me during the process of my personal transformation. Today, after eight years, if I look at the kind of people whom I deal on day today basis in my current life with the set of people whom I moved with eight years before, they are totally two different set of tribes. This alone is a proof of how our internal programming determining the external reality.

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Intellectual base: Let me try to convince your rational brain to buy this idea. Consider a scenario of two friends taking a walk to the park in the neighbourhood. The experience of walk in the park is not the same for both of them even though the place & time of the visit are preciously the same. The experience of one person is completely different than the experience of another person.

The above example demonstrates the different lenses that every one of us carries. Yes, we use filters while perceiving the events. This filter makes our experience different than the experiences of others.

Filter: If your filter is good then you experience a wonderful life. If you experience hardship of the life then it is time to change this filter. What is this filter? Our past experiences of life are a set of collective database stored as our faith & belief structure. Our conditioned mind operates from this database which preciously acts as a filter. We say the mind is conditioned because it can’t act beyond the limits of this database.

In other words, my life experience is simply a construct of my conditioned mind. In fact, this is our internal programming.

Mind-Body Practice: So, changing your life experience is as simple as changing the way your conditioned mind works. This requires bit of regular mind-body practice. This practice makes you to become aware of the conditioned mind and hence get an opportunity to manage the conditioned mind.

Experiential knowledge:  Above, I have given an intellectual base to convince your thinking brain. So, you now know the value of such a belief. But, “knowing” is different than “owning”. If you want to own this then you need to integrate this belief experientially through mind-body practice or some other practical means.

Once when you experience this faith then you know that you are the architect of your reality. This faith is an immense power. The way how you perceive your life is no longer the same. You live like you never lived like this before!!