GOAL & EXPERIENCE

Let us assume that you have a goal. You work hard in attaining the goal. Finally, after all your hard work that you achieved the goal. Naturally, you feel elated with your achievement. This celebration stays with you for days or weeks or months. But, this exuberance fades away after certain duration. Now, you may start a new goal and then the cycle continues. What is then the purpose of setting the goals and achieving those goals? Obviously, it provides the direction in life. Other than that any numbers of achievements become simply the anchoring tools that remind you of your specific skills in attaining the goals. It is like a medal collected by winning the competition. A medal is an exhibit of your distinct skill.

Then, what is that which stays with you forever in this game of setting the life goals and achieving those? It is those experiences, good or bad that one encountered in the process of achieving the goals. So, what stays with you is your experience in attaining the goal. In fact, each individual is the construct of these experiences. He is shaped as a personality based on these experiences.

If you ask any successful people of those who achieved certain very distinctive positions then it becomes so clear from their view that the position is not giving the happiness but the experience in attaining the position gives them the happiness.

This realisation is so important in setting up individual mindset while working in the solution zone. Remember that all our attempts at the solutions do not yield the favourable results.  Having realised the fact that the experience in attaining the goal is more important than the goal itself, it is then okay to face the unfavourable results. In obtaining a solution, one may not succeed but the attempt that one made is really significant which sets the experience in him.

In other words, try the solutions with conviction. It is important to give one hundred percent effort irrespective of the end result. It is guaranteed that one gains experience.

Accelerated growth: As per the focusing power of the mind, things get magnified and multiplied where one focuses on. So, it is dangerous to focus on the problem zone because the problem gets magnified and multiplied. It is pertinent to switch to the solution zone. Now, the solution gets magnified and multiplied. Here the solution goes right or wrong. When the solution is in the right direction, it puts us on the growth path. But when the solution goes wrong, it puts us in double growth path. Because here we get a chance to learn something new out of our failure. New learning aligns us in the evolutionary path. This is a must for the human. Without which, we cease to grow.

When the solution is in the right direction, it puts us on the growth path. But when the solution goes wrong, it puts us in double growth path.

Happiness comes not from the goal but from the experience in attaining the goal

PROBLEM- SOLUTION ZONES

The problem is that one stays in the problem zone instead of moving into the solution zone. So, the solution is to stay in the solution zone instead of staying in the problem zone. Stress is a problem. We need to come out the stress that means with the right solutions. If we focus and stay in the problem zone then naturally due to the power of focus, the problem gets magnified. We end up entangled with multiple problems and hence stress gets multiplied. On the other hand, if we focus and shift to the solution zone then we will be overwhelmed with multiple solutions that will flush us out of the state of stress.

Entangling in the stress mode for a prolonged period of time is a chronic stress. It is a like a black hole. It sucks all our energy as the mind revolves in a vicious loop that follows from one problem to another problem. In this state, we become the owner of stressful life. Chronic stress has the ability to alter the internal physiology of the body everlastingly. The danger here is that we don’t keep the stress for ourselves.

We give freely to others when they come in contact with us. Do you remember the power of words in the early chapter? “Life is hectic” “office is stressful”. We begin to propaganda stress freely.

So, what is the main difference between a stressful people to a people without stress?  The fact here is that there no single person on this planet without stress. But, the difference is that the so-called easy going” person has the ability to handle the stress mindfully. In other words, he knows how to switch to the solution zone quickly as soon as the stress response strikes him.

A stressed person either gets caught in the vicious loop of the problem zone or takes more time than usual to move to the solution zone.  The so-called “easy going” person has the inherent capability to move to the solution zone right away. This capacity is a skill and it is a learnable skill.

The so-called “easy going” person has the inherent capability to move to the solution zone right away. This capacity is a skill and it is a learnable skill.

EMOTION & THINKING BRAINS

The stress response is based on the trigger which occurs in the form of fear, doubt or worry. Hence, the stress response is emotion-centric. The problem of the emotion-centric response is that it is so well automated that it hijacks the thinking brain. That is the reason one can’t think straight while he is in stress. The clarity of the situation and taking appropriate action is not possible in the automated centric process. Thinking brain intervention is a must in the stressed out situation. But, in reality, in most of the cases, this is not happening.

But, it is possible to bring the thinking brain into the picture while in stress. The stress response can be altered with the thinking brain. This requires brain training and it is a learnable skill. Obviously, this cannot be practiced in the peak of the stressed out situation. This should be practiced when one is a normal state.

Stress is an emotion-centric response that hijacks the thinking brain

Mind Focus

Do you know the power of focus? It is the penetration power of the mind and this power is given to all of us equally. What happens when one focus on a particular task for a prolonged duration of time? He can get the penetration power to handle the task. When he penetrates into the task, the world around the task explodes. He tends to see things that a normal unfocussed eye can’t see around the task. This is how he solves the problem related to the task while others struggle to solve. The penetration power is like the magnifying lens that allows the world around the task to see in high definition. This new visibility gives the probabilities of the means and solutions related to the task.

This means to say that the task itself is simply magnified. Such is the power of focus. But, unfortunately, the attention span of the individuals decline heavily in the recent years. Because there are too many distractions which deplete the ability of an individual to stay focussed.

In other words, if one focuses on the problem then the problem gets magnified. On the other hand, focussing on the solution, the solution gets magnified. So, it is wise to focus on the solution in order to solve the problem related to the task. But, the question at hand: How focused are we practically?

Attention is a learnable skill & it is our rights to stay attentive. One can train the brain to enhance the attention faculty. Attention is again a power. The question now is how to harness this power for our growth.

Focused eyes see things that the normal unfocused eyes can’t searound the task in hand.

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