BEING GOOD: Am I at the receiving end sometimes?

The idea of this topic came in one of my yoga sessions .First, let me extend my gratitude to the participant who asked the question.

“Do people take advantage of your situation when you are being good to others?”

Let me give some insight into this topic based on my experiences. First, let us understand,’ what does being good mean to us?’  It simply means that you are making another person or a group of people happy. This can be done by extending your resources to others so that they benefit from your resources. The resource could be your acquired skills, acquired material wealth, your time, extending your love to others or it could be any kind of resource where the receiving person lacks what is being offered to him.

Greater goodness happens when you are extending your resource to others, especially when it is in great demand by others. You feel complete and good about yourself. In this process, you are subjecting yourself to wider opportunities to grow further. This is like a natural water spring. More water is generated, when more the water is taken out from the spring. Also, it is similar to the generation of blood. More you give out your blood, more a new stream of blood flows into your body. For example, my knowledge on Yoga improved greatly once I started disseminating this knowledge to others.

When do we feel that someone is taking advantage of you for being good? In general, we feel good when you extend your resource to the others for the first few occasions. If the same person keeps coming back to you for the same kind of help then we may get a feeling that he is taking advantage of the situation. In this case, the energy is STUCK and there is no FLOW. Let me explain this with the example of multiple streams of water in the river.

It is quite natural that the river branches into multiple streams, where water takes the easier path to flow- steady and easy. In this process, it branches into multiple streams covering wider areas. This is the reason that the running water is far superior to the still water, just because of the flow. Don’t you think that the health benefit of Cauvery water is far superior than the RO filtered ground water?

So, be assured that if our resources should be distributed in such a way, they would also get multiplied as they pass through different people. Show them the path and enlighten them with the knowledge of how to develop the skills for acquiring the resources that they lack. This resource exchange may also be bidirectional from both parties. This is a FLOW and it is good.

If you feel that the flow is not happening and is stagnant due to others then one needs to become tough with others. Lord Rama physic was normally defined to be as soft as flower but when in needed to break a bow, he became tougher and harder as a diamond in that given situation. But caution! When you make a tough call, you need to be completely clear & balanced and abide by your actions based on the law of nature. By following this, I can assure you that you won’t feel bad about your decision ,even though you made a tough call!

Having said that, the greatest wisdom that we should remind ourselves of is that each and every one of us is innately GOOD by nature. This is our original nature & our true state of being. If you feel that you are apprehensive in any given situation and not feeling good about yourself, then become TOUGHER with YOURSELF and go back to your original state of ‘BEING GOOD’. 

Stay in the STATE OF FLOW!!