Relationship management – Parenting

In this blog, I would like to highlight some of the key points that I use in my personal life to keep the family relationship simple & sweet. Not knowing these tricks, we may unknowingly force ourselves in overcomplicating the relationship while that supposed to be simple. This small mind shift gives an opportunity to unwind the complicated relationship and make it simple. Life is really that simple. Complicated life is a creation of our ignorance in not understanding some finer details of life.

Gift: Any relationship is simply a gift given to us to enhance and enjoy the life. It is not our possession .So, try not to OWN it. Many of us try to own the relationship especially when it comes to their children. They think their children are their assets. Hence, they own it and try to take care &maintain. Every creature out there in this planet is the creation of this universe & it is simply that the children have come through us. We have not created them. Universe has created them & offer to us as a gift which we can enjoy for certain phase of the life. Family problems come only when one tries to possess and own the relationship. So, the first thumb rule is to simply accept all the family relationships as gifts and enjoy those without owning.

Evolution: It is quite natural for an animal like a cat that tries to explore its territory. We can’t contain our pet cat within the four walls of our own house. When a cat has the curiosity to explore, imagine a human creature with his vast infinity power for development can’t be contained. When one doesn’t consider their offspring as their asset, they will provide every opportunity for their children to explore without corrupting children minds with their own ideas. On the other hand, when one dumps his ideas into the head of the child, he is not only spoiling the child with his own ideas but also arresting the natural evolution of the child. He thinks that he is helping his child but the effect on the child is completely polarity opposite. So, second thumb rule is to allow the child to grow by his own evolutionary energy.

Expectation: Since, one possesses so much to the relationship; he naturally expects something out of that relationship. In case of parenting, the biggest move is to bulldoze the parent dream through their children. For example, a parent who aspired to become a doctor, if he did not get through the goal in his life time then there could be a possibility for him to unconsciously forcing this goal to his son/daughter. This is the biggest mistake done by the parent and greatest injustice to the children.  So, the third thumb rule is not to impose your goal to the child.

Life and family relationship become lot sweeter and simple by drawing and adapting these three simple rules.