In my previous blog, I showed you in a mathematical form the
correlation between my experience & my life. In this blog, let us focus on
my experience itself.
Experience is a combination of actions (A)
and the rewards (R) that associated with the actions. A reward is an emotional
component which makes me to repeat the action or stop the action. There is a
higher likelihood to repeat a particular action when the reward that I get out
of my action generates joy & contentment.
Action:
Action is comprised of set of three different categories.
Where Aa
is the daily auto repeated actions that run on autopilot mode such brushing
teeth, taking bath etc
Af is the forced action from external factors (those
actions forced upon me , such as dropping the kids to the school, filling the
income tax etc)
Ag is the voluntary action
initiated by me that aids in my personal development (such as upgrading my
skills, doing my fitness regime etc)
Management
of Action: Af
is an externally forced component and it is something out of my control and I
can’t do anything about it. But, from my personal experience if you know the
technique of managing the remaining two categories (Aa & Ag)
then the Af actions will ease over a period of time.
Then the question is, “how to manage these two categories?”
Apply mindfulness to my Aa
actions. All these days, these actions were performed without my conscious
awareness. But, I now deliberately apply my awareness to these actions. This
simple change gives me an opportunity to understand the way how I have
programmed myself. A simple but effective self-understanding process!!
Change is a continuous process and I am
no exception to this. I am always undergoing the change whether I like it or
not. But, with Ag, I deliberately make
my change to move in my positive personal growth path. This is the toughest
thing to perform to myself because it is as good as moving away from my comfort
zone. This is where R, the reward mechanism (the
emotional component) comes into play.
Micro
reward: When
I go through my change process using Ag, it is pertinent to
look for the small positive progresses generated by the actions that I performed.
This alone keeps the momentum to break the crucial transition phase.
In simple terms, mindful actions of Aa
and a watchful eye on the micro rewards from Ag
actions change the way I feel my experience.
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